Get Back Together Forever

 
Do you want to get your ex girl back more than anything in the world? Would you pay all your money and worldly possessions just to have her back? Would you move to the other side of the world, even to the South Pole, just to spend the rest of your life with her?

Only if you answered “yes” to all these questions can you really be sure that you love her with a love that will endure for a lifetime. And if you love her that much then there’s little that can happen to stop you getting her back before very long.

First, though, be sure that it really is love, and not some infatuation, or a desire not to have your pride hurt. Do you see your future together as one in which she is happy, in which she is to be cared for by you but without being smothered, in which the only thing that matters is that she lives a fulfilled life, and your only pleasure is in knowing that you are the one responsible for giving her such true happiness?

If this is so then you’ll feel a kind of emptiness without her. Life won’t have any meaning until she’s back. It’s not a physical yearning so much as an emotional imperative – something noble that transcends ordinary human affairs like a space shuttle flying high above a caravan site.

Does this really describe your feelings for your ex girl? If you’re still thinking “yes” then good – there’s every chance she could easily put your former relationship on the same plane, and that she will come back to you if you just get your approach right.

And to do this you have to obey these three cast iron rules.

1. Maintain your self-esteem at all times.

Not so long ago she looked up to you on account of your personality and demeanour. Whether or not the cause of your split involved a change in these things, make sure the characteristics that attracted her to you in the first place not only survive unscathed, but are even stronger.

Always put yourself in a position of strength, not weakness. That means not pleading with her to return, or pestering her through phone calls and the like. Tell her you accept the blame for what has happened (even if it wasn’t all your fault), that you’re sorry you caused her such distress, and that you’d be honoured if you could remain friends.

There’s no reason why any reasonable person – one that you’d want to spend your life with – wouldn’t graciously accept such a proposal.

2. Tell her you’ll give her some space.

It may well be that your ex girl doesn’t actually want a permanent split, even though that’s what it looks like right now. She may just want a little time on her own to think things through, especially if you have been seeing a lot of each other, or there was some specific cause for the rift.

It’s tempting to engineer occasions when you’ll be together so you can try to persuade her to return, but avoid this at all costs – it would only make matters worse. Give her the space she needs, even though you’re wanting your ex back like mad, and tell her you’ll desist from contacting her for, say, a month. This will send her estimation of you soaring. Keep to that deal, and by the end of it she’ll probably be looking forward to hearing from you again.

3. Write her a letter.

Put all this in writing in a letter. Why a letter? Because it works. Not an email or text message, but a letter hand written on good quality writing paper. And if you’re not sure how to set it out, there are templates available to help you.

Follow this advice, and keep your integrity, to get your ex girl back once she’s had time to realise you really are the one for her after all.

Philip Gegan

Are you wanting your ex back for the right reasons? Do you think the two of you can make a success of things the second time around? How would each of you cope with the break up that you’re now experiencing? How much danger is there of the same thing happening again?

These are some of the questions you should ask yourself before you commit to winning your ex back and planning how you’re going to do it. And these questions, including others you can easily think of that apply in your unique situation, will lead you to knowing for sure if wanting your ex back is a realistic wish.

So – why do you really want your ex back? Do you miss their company – the fun you had together? Of course you do, but is that the only or main reason? Or just one of thousands? Was life more comfortable when you were together? Did you enjoy all the perks of a boyfriend or girlfriend, a husband or wife, and you’re going to find it difficult to manage in all life’s complicated ways on your own?

Do financial reasons come into it at all? Were you able to enjoy things like being driven around in a nice car and foreign holidays that you wouldn’t have been able to afford on your own? Did you enjoy access to other people whose company you enjoyed and whom you won’t now be able to mix with?

Do you see what I’m getting at? It may be that some or all of these things apply to you, but that’s not the vital point. Even the most rock-solid relationships give one or both parties (usually both) material advantages – for example, one side may benefit by having a more luxurious lifestyle and more money than they would otherwise have had while the other enjoys a high standard of domestic cuisine that wouldn’t be there otherwise.

But those advantages, in spite of being mutually beneficial, aren’t what hold the relationship together. The only thing that can do that, though it sounds corny to say it, is true love. That is the ultimate question, and you shouldn’t need to think very much about that to know the answer. Do you truly love your ex, and, more importantly, do they, or did they, truly love you?

The answer to this last question is vital. You have to be totally honest with yourself. Perhaps they did at one time love you but because of something you did or your general pattern of behaviour towards them over a period of time they no longer do so. If you’re uncertain as to whether they ever really did love you then the chances of winning them back are small.

But if you’re sure your ex did love you, or even better that they still really do love you, then you can work realistically on the best tips on getting your ex back that you can find. Love has to come from both sides and it can’t be forced. You should know what made your ex love you in the first place – often it’s simply by being who you are (or were at the time you first met) – and you should work on that.

To give yourself the best chance of saving your broken relationship, download your free Guide, “3 Letter Templates That Work Like A Charm To Get Your Ex To Agree To A Date” from http://www.getbacktogetherforever.com

Philip Gegan

 
If you’re looking for tips on getting your ex back then you should tread carefully. There are thousands of places on and off the internet giving advice on this subject, but few guides are written by people who really know what they’re talking about.

Much of the “advice” is copied from one place and regurgitated on another. The content is the same, just the words are in a different order. And this leads to my first tip . . .

1. Always check the credentials of the writer.

Who is it giving you advice on what is a vitally important aspect of your life, on which your whole future may depend? How are they qualified to give advice? Have they ever been in the same situation and successfully won their ex back? Do they hold any qualifications, such as being a counsellor, that gives them the right to advise?

Before you act on any piece of advice, take a moment to check up on whoever it is giving it. How do they know what they’re saying is good advice? Unless there’s at least some sign that they’re seriously into the subject of relationships and human affairs then be very careful.

2. Don’t expect or attempt a “quick fix”.

Human beings are complex creatures, both men and women. Never mess around with someone’s emotions. If you and your loved one have split up, that is really split up as opposed to a “lovers’ tiff”, then it’s almost certain to have been caused by something substantial. And the judge of “substantial” is the person who has left.

Even if it seems trivial to you, never convey that to your ex. Always empathise with them and try to use the issue so you understand them better. Sincerely apologise, and say you accept that some time apart may be the only way ahead for both of you. Be sincere in this. Never pander to things your loved one says or wants just to try and get them back. You have to be yourself at this difficult time, more than ever, and in doing so impress your ex with your strength of character.

It’s easy to say this, but it’s true. You may have to put up with injustice, in being blamed for things that perhaps weren’t altogether your fault, and the judgement of friends and acquaintances who don’t know all the facts. Shoulder all these burdens with fortitude, and never complain to anyone. Actions speak so much louder than words and you can be sure your ex will get to hear of this and be impressed with how you are conducting yourself, rather than constantly looking for “things to do to get your ex back”.

While this sounds like taking the long way round, and may well take some time, it is a far surer way of attracting your ex back than any gimmicky stunt that will fade faster than a burnt-out firework.

3. You have to get your ex to want to return.

You can’t force your ex to come back to you, or to accept you back. The driving force that brings them back has to come from within them. You can only influence that indirectly, by your own actions.

So at all times imagine yourself as the person your ex wants to be with. Probably it’s the individual you were when they were first attracted to you, but tempered by the events of your break-up and thereby made into a better and more desirable character than before.

Finally, don’t forget to download your free Guide, “3 Letter Templates That Work Like A Charm To Get Your Ex To Agree To A Date” from http://www.getbacktogetherforever.com

Philip Gegan