“How To Win An Ex Back”
Why have I put this in quotes? Simple. There’s such a lot being written at present about “how to win an ex back“, “how to get a girl back“, “how to win a guy back” and every possible combination of terms. And much of this “advice” is coming from people who really have no idea of how to actually go about something as delicate and emotionally charged as this.
You can often distinguish between this phoney advice, from someone whose only interest in the subject is to make as many sales of one of the various ebooks available online as they can, and someone who genuinely wants to help you.
The phoney advice is nearly always generic, i.e. is dispensed as if everyone were the same and would react in exactly the same way to any given set of circumstances. For example, several sites I’ve visited recently advise anyone who has recently been “dumped” (what a horrible term!) by their partner to make no attempt to contact them for several days at least in order to “give them space”.
This may be good advice in many cases, but it cannot in every case, and possibly not in your own. It all depends on so many variables – what kind of person your ex is, what kind of person you are, what kind of relationship you had, where each of you live, whether you work together, and a host of other things.
The trouble is that we are all human, and we all have our individual idiosyncrasies. Thank goodness we do, for that makes us truly human, and without it life would be intolerable. But it means that a course of action on your part to start the process of restoring the relationship might work for one kind of person but not for another.
Remember that when you read someone else’s take on what you should do if your lover has left you, they may be only interested in funnelling you through to the sales page of the ebook they are selling. That itself doesn’t necessarily render their advice of no value, but also bear in mind that much of what you read will be generic advice, good on the face of it but which may be quite inappropriate to your own broken relationship or the emotional make-up of your ex.
Only you can be the judge of that.
Philip Gegan
