Is It Possible To Get Your Ex Back After Cheating On Them?
So you’ve cheated on your other half and now you want them back. That’s a bad situation to be in and the question has to be asked, “Is it possible to get your ex back after cheating on them?” If this applies to you right now, read on.
The first point to note is this. Your situation is not as dire as you may think. Plenty of people have won their ex back after cheating on them – it happens all the time. What you have to do now is to thoroughly assess what has happened and the effect it has had on both you and your ex.
The history and nature of your relationship will have a bearing on how your ex has taken the betrayal, and how you should approach them with a view to getting back together. But there are two vital things you have to do to start the process of effecting a reconciliation with your ex, and they are as follows.
1. Express your remorse in a letter
This must be a hand written letter on expensive quality letter-paper, not a hastily scrawled note on a sheet torn out from a notepad. Don’t even think about doing this by email or text message.
In this letter you have to express sincere regret and remorse from the heart, and emphasise how you accept it was all your own fault entirely. Make it clear you are devastated, not for yourself, but for how your ex must be feeling.
Say you would understand if your ex didn’t want to ever see you again, but that you would like before too long to get back with them. You must also put in what lawyers call “mitigation”, i.e. that it was a disastrous mistake on your part, that you’ve been a fool and that it will never happen again.
Whatever else you put in this letter, don’t try either to blame the third party for instigating the affair (even if that was the case) or to plead for forgiveness and for your ex to take you back. Finish by saying that you don’t want to appear to be pestering your ex, and that you propose not contacting them for 30 days or so in order for you both to have time to think things over.
2. Cut off contact for a while
You’ve said in your letter that you won’t contact your ex for around 30 days, and unless your ex makes it clear that they want contact with you sooner then you must keep to that promise. This is important because it not only takes the pressure off your ex (in that they know they won’t keep getting messages or letters from you begging them to come back) but it also gives you time to reform yourself.
When you embarked on your affair you displayed a weakness of character in betraying your ex. There’s no other way to put it, so you have to face up to that fact. Resolve now that you’re going to follow a different path – one that makes you not only the person that your ex was first attracted to but a better person that your ex cannot help themselves being attracted to when you meet up later on.
Accentuate those qualities that your ex found so desirable in the first place. If it was because you were a “fun” and interesting character then work on that. If it was because you were quiet and a person of integrity then work to make those characteristics more to the fore. Maybe you need improving physically, with a few visits to the gym, or some long distance running. You could look on this as part of your “penance”, and it may even become a long-term habit.
When the 30 days have elapsed you have a good reason to resume contact with your ex, whether by a “get your ex back letter” or telephone (again, not by email or text message). At that stage you want to feel that you have moved on from the affair and have improved your character sufficiently to start what may be a long, hard road towards getting your ex back for good.
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Philip Gegan