Get Back Together Forever

I’m starting to write a review of this book, by T.W. Jackson. I haven’t actually come across many reviews of it on the internet, and those I have seen haven’t been particularly in depth, rather a thinly veiled pre-sales page.

There are actually several nuggets of wisdom on the human psyche to be found. A kind of concentrated graduate course, but written in plain English.

It should be published on this blog later this week.

Philip Gegan

What if your ex wants to get back together, but you’re only just getting over being dumped by him or her the last time around?

What do you do? It’s tempting to welcome them back and look forward to a resumption of your former relationship, but is that a good idea?

Enough of the questions, now for some answers.

In this situation your ex is either showing they have discovered their error and can’t wait to get back with you and put the unfortunate episode behind them, or they’re treating you with a lack of respect and showing no sympathy for what you’ve recently been through at their behest.

You have to consider the kind of person they are. If they are wholly genuine in their outlook on life and attitude towards other people then you may feel inclined to give them the benefit of the doubt, but even then you should still seek to discuss with them first a way of avoiding a replay of what has so recently happened.

And if they are not quite so straightforward, then you may feel it best to at least keep them waiting a while so you can think about things. At worst you may think it unwise to risk putting yourself through the wrangle again.

You need to think clearly. What was it that brought you both together in the first place? Was it something a little more than just physical attraction? What was it that caused the split? Why does your ex now want to get back together?

Ask your ex these questions, and ask yourself as well. See how their answers compare with your own. If you take your ex back where do you see the relationship going from then onwards? Discuss it with your friends. How would they see it? Would they be supportive or would they think you were mad?

Good luck if you do decide to take your ex back. But just make sure you understand what caused the split originally and that you have such a possibility covered if it shows signs of repeating itself.

Philip Gegan

This may be a lesson in how to get a girl back that anyone could learn. For four years the World’s No. 2 tennis player, Britain’s Andy Murray, dated his girlfriend, Kim Sears, and they even bought a mansion together in Surrey, close to London.

During this time Andy fought his way up through the world tennis rankings, and suffered many setbacks along the way. But all the while his girlfriend was there by his side and giving immeasurable support.

Then in 2009 they split up and Kim moved out of their mansion. Andy carried on with his high-flying tennis career, travelling all over the world, including to Australia, where he made the final of a Grand Slam tournament for the first time (even if he did lose – to Roger Federer, arguably the best tennis player of all time).

But it seems now Andy and Kim are “tentatively” rekindling their relationship, according to a mutual friend. Neither, it seems, had any other serious relationship during the time they were apart, so it may well be that neither can be truly happy with anyone other than each other. Money is not part of the equation.

Let’s hope that this is so, and that they get back together forever, and both become even more successful (Kim is studying English at Brighton University in England).

Philip Gegan

I’ve just been viewing a site on relationships that makes one or two really refreshing suggestions for anyone with a relationship problem.

Such as deciding for perhaps a day to do away with all negative thinking and comments. Make everything positive, even if you’re really up against it. Don’t depress your other half, or whoever you’re with during the day, with boring, negative remarks. Make everything positive, even if it turns out to be funny because of that.

That only makes things better. Try and develop your own sense of humor, whether it’s a gentle humor, a dry wit, or anything in between. That makes you more interesting and relieves the tension that may have been building up around you.

Philip Gegan