Get Back Together Forever

This may be a lesson in how to get a girl back that anyone could learn. For four years the World’s No. 2 tennis player, Britain’s Andy Murray, dated his girlfriend, Kim Sears, and they even bought a mansion together in Surrey, close to London.

During this time Andy fought his way up through the world tennis rankings, and suffered many setbacks along the way. But all the while his girlfriend was there by his side and giving immeasurable support.

Then in 2009 they split up and Kim moved out of their mansion. Andy carried on with his high-flying tennis career, travelling all over the world, including to Australia, where he made the final of a Grand Slam tournament for the first time (even if he did lose – to Roger Federer, arguably the best tennis player of all time).

But it seems now Andy and Kim are “tentatively” rekindling their relationship, according to a mutual friend. Neither, it seems, had any other serious relationship during the time they were apart, so it may well be that neither can be truly happy with anyone other than each other. Money is not part of the equation.

Let’s hope that this is so, and that they get back together forever, and both become even more successful (Kim is studying English at Brighton University in England).

Philip Gegan

Are you wanting your ex back for the right reasons? Do you think the two of you can make a success of things the second time around? How would each of you cope with the break up that you’re now experiencing? How much danger is there of the same thing happening again?

These are some of the questions you should ask yourself before you commit to winning your ex back and planning how you’re going to do it. And these questions, including others you can easily think of that apply in your unique situation, will lead you to knowing for sure if wanting your ex back is a realistic wish.

So – why do you really want your ex back? Do you miss their company – the fun you had together? Of course you do, but is that the only or main reason? Or just one of thousands? Was life more comfortable when you were together? Did you enjoy all the perks of a boyfriend or girlfriend, a husband or wife, and you’re going to find it difficult to manage in all life’s complicated ways on your own?

Do financial reasons come into it at all? Were you able to enjoy things like being driven around in a nice car and foreign holidays that you wouldn’t have been able to afford on your own? Did you enjoy access to other people whose company you enjoyed and whom you won’t now be able to mix with?

Do you see what I’m getting at? It may be that some or all of these things apply to you, but that’s not the vital point. Even the most rock-solid relationships give one or both parties (usually both) material advantages – for example, one side may benefit by having a more luxurious lifestyle and more money than they would otherwise have had while the other enjoys a high standard of domestic cuisine that wouldn’t be there otherwise.

But those advantages, in spite of being mutually beneficial, aren’t what hold the relationship together. The only thing that can do that, though it sounds corny to say it, is true love. That is the ultimate question, and you shouldn’t need to think very much about that to know the answer. Do you truly love your ex, and, more importantly, do they, or did they, truly love you?

The answer to this last question is vital. You have to be totally honest with yourself. Perhaps they did at one time love you but because of something you did or your general pattern of behaviour towards them over a period of time they no longer do so. If you’re uncertain as to whether they ever really did love you then the chances of winning them back are small.

But if you’re sure your ex did love you, or even better that they still really do love you, then you can work realistically on the best tips on getting your ex back that you can find. Love has to come from both sides and it can’t be forced. You should know what made your ex love you in the first place – often it’s simply by being who you are (or were at the time you first met) – and you should work on that.

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Philip Gegan

How you can get back with your girlfriend is probably the only thought that stays in your head for days, or even weeks, after she has finished with you. And there’s a burning desire within you – an ache that nothing can do to bring relief – to see her again, to hear her laugh, to feel her touching you.

You have to take control of your emotions and direct your energies towards achieving what you want. And although what you want is to have your girlfriend back again, you have to go deeper than that. You have to make her want to return to you, which means making yourself more desirable to her than you are at this moment.

Most of all at this time you have to do one thing that most people find very difficult. You have to think. You have to take some time to do this, with no distractions or interruptions. Switch off your cell phone and the TV, and unplug your land line telephone. Make yourself comfortable and relax. Allow as much time as you can – at least a couple of hours – so you don’t feel under pressure or in a hurry.

After a while you’ll be able to think dispassionately and objectively. Focus on the situation from your girlfriend’s point of view. Think of all the things she valued in your relationship, and all your characteristics that attracted her to you in the first place. Think of how things were when you were both in love with each other – the things you used to do to make her laugh, the little gifts you gave her and the silly things you liked to do together.

Then ask yourself why she ended all that. It may not be the reason she has given you, and it may be that things between you changed so much that it was a completely different relationship by the time she ended it. If so, why did this happen? Was it something that you did? Or was it some external event? What destroyed the magic?

In particular, how have you changed since you enjoyed her love and respect? How can you change yourself again to the person your girlfriend loved? What was it, above anything else, that made her fall in love with you? Most likely it was how you made her feel about herself. You must have made her feel as if she was the most important person in the whole world when she was with you. She must have felt as if she was having the time of her life.

Why did that change? What exactly was it that happened? Was it a sudden event or a gradual process? Find the answers to all these questions, and all the others that will occur to you, and file them in your memory. Imagine yourself to be, once more, the person that she was so happy with, that she was so madly in love with. How do you need to change so as to become that person again?

Do you need to change your attitude towards her? Perhaps you’d grown to take her for granted, or to ignore her wishes and act in accordance with your own desires only. Perhaps you’ve changed physically, and need to work out regularly in order to attract her once more. But more likely it’s your mental and emotional side that you need to work on.

Once you’ve carried out this exercise (which is good for solving most problems in life, incidentally) then you’ll know what you have to do, and that alone will make you feel much better about the split. You’ll be able to accept what has happened and that things will never be quite the same again, but have the confidence that you know how to win your girlfriend back.

You won’t need to keep looking for the latest set of free tips on getting your ex back any more. Take action on what you’ve discovered about yourself, and an opportunity will soon arise for you to show your girlfriend that you have moved on from the split – into someone whom she can’t help falling for all over again.

Finally, don’t forget to claim your free Guide, “3 Letter Templates That Work
Like A Charm To Get Your Ex To Agree To A Date” from http://www.getbacktogetherforever.com

Philip Gegan