Get Back Together Forever

Nearly every guide to getting your ex back assumes that the two of you were in a stable relationship before the split, that suddenly there was a split, and now you’re left wanting your ex back but don’t know where to start. But it’s seldom as straightforward as that.

If every split were like this then it would very often be easy to restore the relationship even if only one party were determined to make that happen. But no two splits are the same, and often the breakup comes as the culmination of a number of crises in the relationship.

Whatever else you do at this stage, you should take some time to reflect on the relationship you had with your ex, whether there were warning signs of what was to come before the split happened, and whether the two of you could successfully re-establish a relationship that didn’t fail again.

What was it that brought you together in the first place? Did one of you work to get the relationship going or did it all come together without any real effort? What do you most have in common with each other? What was the most important, vital, part of the relationship? Was one of you the leader and the other the follower, or did you both play an equal part in decision making?

Why do you want to get your ex back? Make sure you can articulate all the reasons to yourself and it’s not just nostalgia on your part, looking back to the good times and glossing over the bad times. You must be absolutely sure that getting your ex back is the right thing to do. Then you can try and pinpoint exactly what went wrong in the relationship and work out a plan for getting your ex back.

But just as the relationship started naturally all that time ago, so should the reconciliation. It would be fatal to force things along. You need patience as well as determination. Use all the points in your favour, including strength of character, to make yourself as desirable to your ex as you were when you first got together.

This is going to take time, whether it’s two weeks or two months. And it will be a most difficult time. You should tell your ex that you’re going to give them some space and that you won’t contact them for, say, 30 days. If there are children to arrange access for, or personal belongings to be collected then you may have to arrange contact sooner, but tell them that you won’t raise the subject of what happens in the future at such meetings for that period of time.

This move alone will take the pressure off your ex, and they will appreciate it. It will probably impress them with your sincerity and consideration in suggesting that arrangement. And it will give you an excellent excuse for making contact at the end of that period to see how your ex is getting on and if they are agreeable to exploring a possible reconciliation.

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