Get Back Together Forever

 
Is there a “best” way to get your ex back? The answer is that there is a best way in your own particular case, but there’s no “one size fits all”. You have to figure out what your best way is and that all depends on a number of things that applies to you and your ex.

Probably one of you walked out, or at least was the main instigator of the split. If it was you, then does that make it easier to get your ex back? Or more difficult? If it was your ex who initiated the separation then was it because of something specific that you did, or was it your general demeanour over a period of time?

Take some time to sit down and think hard about this. Shut off everything else – no interruptions. It may be difficult, but you must do this, and do it as dispassionately as possible. Don’t hurry. Gradually visualise yourself back with your ex, but not as you were before the split, rather as you will be, having put the split behind you.

Think backwards from this stage. Given your distinct personalities, the nature of your relationship before and after the split, and the circumstances in which you are each likely to be living in the immediate future, what is the most likely path to a reconciliation?

Now you can take into account the first of these two golden rules of seeking to get your ex back. This rule is that, whatever action you take, it must be, and be seen as, perfectly natural, as if there couldn’t really be any other outcome but that you and your ex would get back together again.

One essential ingredient of this rule is that you must on no account display weakness. Never plead with your ex to return, or say that you can’t live without them. To do so means, in effect, begging your ex to return for your sake, so you are happy again. By definition, this disregards what your ex wants or is feeling. What about them? How will a reconciliation benefit them? Will they be happy?

To be natural, getting your ex back must be as a result of your ex coming to want that as much as you do. This cannot be forced in any way.

The second golden rule is this. You have to keep your self respect and also do your best to make sure that your ex keeps their self respect as well. This is a highly charged, possibly volatile, emotional time, and it’s easy to make a mistake you’ll come to regret.

So don’t do anything in a hurry. Always think things through carefully. That’s not to say, necessarily, that you should take a long time in reacting to a new development, but you should concentrate on thinking clearly and focus on your longer term objective of getting back with your ex.

Whilst this isn’t a complete guide to getting your ex back, it should set you on the right track to having the best possible chance of success.

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Philip Gegan

How you can get back with your girlfriend is probably the only thought that stays in your head for days, or even weeks, after she has finished with you. And there’s a burning desire within you – an ache that nothing can do to bring relief – to see her again, to hear her laugh, to feel her touching you.

You have to take control of your emotions and direct your energies towards achieving what you want. And although what you want is to have your girlfriend back again, you have to go deeper than that. You have to make her want to return to you, which means making yourself more desirable to her than you are at this moment.

Most of all at this time you have to do one thing that most people find very difficult. You have to think. You have to take some time to do this, with no distractions or interruptions. Switch off your cell phone and the TV, and unplug your land line telephone. Make yourself comfortable and relax. Allow as much time as you can – at least a couple of hours – so you don’t feel under pressure or in a hurry.

After a while you’ll be able to think dispassionately and objectively. Focus on the situation from your girlfriend’s point of view. Think of all the things she valued in your relationship, and all your characteristics that attracted her to you in the first place. Think of how things were when you were both in love with each other – the things you used to do to make her laugh, the little gifts you gave her and the silly things you liked to do together.

Then ask yourself why she ended all that. It may not be the reason she has given you, and it may be that things between you changed so much that it was a completely different relationship by the time she ended it. If so, why did this happen? Was it something that you did? Or was it some external event? What destroyed the magic?

In particular, how have you changed since you enjoyed her love and respect? How can you change yourself again to the person your girlfriend loved? What was it, above anything else, that made her fall in love with you? Most likely it was how you made her feel about herself. You must have made her feel as if she was the most important person in the whole world when she was with you. She must have felt as if she was having the time of her life.

Why did that change? What exactly was it that happened? Was it a sudden event or a gradual process? Find the answers to all these questions, and all the others that will occur to you, and file them in your memory. Imagine yourself to be, once more, the person that she was so happy with, that she was so madly in love with. How do you need to change so as to become that person again?

Do you need to change your attitude towards her? Perhaps you’d grown to take her for granted, or to ignore her wishes and act in accordance with your own desires only. Perhaps you’ve changed physically, and need to work out regularly in order to attract her once more. But more likely it’s your mental and emotional side that you need to work on.

Once you’ve carried out this exercise (which is good for solving most problems in life, incidentally) then you’ll know what you have to do, and that alone will make you feel much better about the split. You’ll be able to accept what has happened and that things will never be quite the same again, but have the confidence that you know how to win your girlfriend back.

You won’t need to keep looking for the latest set of free tips on getting your ex back any more. Take action on what you’ve discovered about yourself, and an opportunity will soon arise for you to show your girlfriend that you have moved on from the split – into someone whom she can’t help falling for all over again.

Finally, don’t forget to claim your free Guide, “3 Letter Templates That Work
Like A Charm To Get Your Ex To Agree To A Date” from http://www.getbacktogetherforever.com

Philip Gegan