Get Back Together Forever

What do you do when your husband or boyfriend suddenly announces that he’s been seeing someone else and he’s decided to leave you and move in with them? Or, if you’re a man, when your wife or long-term girlfriend tells you your relationship is going nowhere and she’s decided to move out? Or, even worse, you come home early, open the bedroom door, and . . . !?!?!? There are thousands and thousands of ways relationships between a man and a woman break up, but the result is always the same. Heartbreak, suffering, humiliation, pain, all the things we hope to avoid in our lifetimes.

Which brings me to the first point about “The Magic of Making Up”, by T.W. Jackson. It explains how all these situations are completely avoidable, and can be forestalled easily if only we know what to watch out for in our relationship.

What is it, for example, that drives a man into the arms of another woman? Is it really that he is sex-mad, or a serial adulterer? Probably not. More likely it is all bound up with the way the relationship he has with his partner been going for some time.

He’s seeking attention and admiration but feels (rightly or wrongly) that he’s not getting it. That is most likely the root of the problem, not the infidelity itself.

“What’s that?” you say. “You mean that my husband being unfaithful to me is really my fault?!”

Whoa – hold on, I’m not actually saying that. But (ah, yes, there’s a “but”) men seldom stray if they are getting the attention and admiration they crave from their wife or partner (just as women seldom stray if they feel appreciated by their man). Of course, it may be that he has been acting in a way that doesn’t deserve any feelings of affection, and that may not be your fault.

Or, again, you just may have something to do with it. This applies where it is the woman who strays, as well – it may be the man in this case who shares some of the blame. The infidelity, or offensive behaviour or whatever may be the problem, is usually a symptom and not the cause. There have probably been problems for some time before the defining moment came when one of you said, “I’m out of here!”

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Men and women have different viewpoints, and generally react differently to events and situations and this is why Chapter 3 of the book, “Removing the Splinter in Your Relationship”, is priceless. It forces you to examine all the positives and all the negatives in your relationship, and dares to ask the forbidden question, “Are you doing the right thing in trying to save it?”

If you can clear away all the emotional debris and look with 20-20 vision at everything that has been happening with the two of you, then you’ll know the answer to that question. The author shows you exactly how to do it.

That’s not all. By the time you finish reading this chapter you’ll know more than probably 99 per cent of the population about human relationships. For example, what is the opposite of love? If you answered “hate”, then you really need to read this book for your crash course on human psychology.

This is all very well, you may be thinking, but just how do you go about getting back the love of your life? We want concrete, practical instruction like one, do this, two, do this, three, do that, and so on, don’t we?

Many Guides to getting your ex back just to that, and nothing more. But you do need a little more than that, or otherwise you’ll be facing the same situation a little further down the line, and you don’t want that. This book gives you more than just the basic 1-2-3 – it helps you build your renewed relationship to be stronger than ever before, by making you take into account the human foibles and idiosyncrasies of both of you. This is vital.

The key point is – we’re all different. We have different values and views. As the head of my old school used to say, it’s just as well, otherwise we’d all want the same wife.

But there are still rules that apply to just about everybody, thank goodness, so the advice given in Chapter 4, “Re-Igniting the Spark of Passion and Desire”, can safely be applied in just about any situation where your partner has left. And this is where the book lets rip and becomes so devastatingly effective.

You can almost see the parts fitting together. Suddenly the thought of actually getting your ex back doesn’t seem so hopeless. You can even see how things are going to work out after the reconciliation, because it’s all there, in front of you.

And not just that. All the thousand and one questions floating around in your mind seem to be dealt with at the same time.

For example, questions you’re asking straight after the split. Should you start dating someone else? Should you be seen having fun, e.g. on a night out? Should you let it affect other areas of your life? What should you tell your friends? Should you blame your ex for the break-up? How should you handle your family’s concerns?

How should you go about contacting your ex to start the reconciliation process? And at what stage? Should you contact them in the meantime? What “excuse” can you use without it appearing obvious?

And when you meet up with your ex for your first post-split date, what should you talk about? (And – just as important – what should you not talk about?) How long should the date last? Where should it take place? Should anyone else be there? How should you handle yourself? Should you talk about the past? Or the future? Or neither?

Don’t worry about all these questions. Everything will fall into place.

To be sure, there’s no instant cure to a relationship break-up. It’s going to take a little time to mend, and meanwhile you’re going to feel all the things it’s natural to feel – hurt, anxious, worried, frustrated. But if you follow the plan laid down you will surely meet with success. And if by any chance you don’t, you’ll probably realise that your life will be better on its new path, where you are more confident, more mature, and in total control of yourself, ready to face the future.

The price of this book may be no more than the cost of a meal for two at a halfway decent restaurant, but the information and guidance you’ll find is truly life-changing. I hope and believe that, if you are desperately wanting to get back with your ex partner, this book will put you firmly on the right track.

You can learn more about this unique and life-changing book by clicking here.

Philip Gegan